While in some ways, you might not feel like talking about legalities and other basics relating to what is to come, you and your loved ones can find comfort in doing so. Even though we know it’s not in our control, this type of situation can feel precarious for you and your loved ones. Creating a plan can provide structure and bring a sense of peace. For example, if you have a loved one facing a terminal illness, you should consider the legal means for giving yourself or another family member the authority to act on their behalf. In this way, you can better prioritize needs and make appropriate decisions regarding care should your loved one become too impaired to do so on their own. This includes legal forms, such as powers of attorney, appointing a Social Security representative, and creating a living will.

This is also a good time to review funeral costs and arrangements. When people are forced to make decisions under emotional circumstances or when pressed for time, many families end up overspending on funeral services. Those with no prior experience with burial and funeral arrangements are particularly vulnerable when making on-the-spot decisions. By working with a trusted funeral home like Boron Funeral Home, Inc., you can plan ahead for your loved one's funeral and review the best available options. 

Even if you think everything is already in order, you and your loved ones should review decisions made previously. Sometimes, legal paperwork needs to be updated, such as beneficiaries on insurance plans or property that was already disbursed. A checklist can help you navigate some of the ground you need to cover. Treatment and medical care can be costly, so once paperwork is reviewed, it’s a good idea to work through your loved one’s finances, including savings, insurance, and how much equity they have in their home. 

Discussing sickness and death can be particularly awkward and upsetting. As with any emotionally charged talk, praying beforehand can bring peace and comfort to all involved. And remember, having those difficult discussions can be helpful to the person who is ill as well as family members and friends. It’s important to get pertinent information from physicians and medical staff. You should discuss what symptoms can be expected, what they indicate, and the general course the illness brings. It’s a chance to work through timelines and make plans. You and your loved ones should talk with your physician regarding treatments and what options are available, as well as how that will potentially affect plans. 

While everyone is still able, discussing events is important to ensuring you and your loved ones make the most of the remaining time. Focus on the Family suggests centering conversations around values, and avoiding any dos and don’ts. Talking openly about what is happening gives an opportunity to voice fears, hopes, and desires. Any upcoming, significant events important to someone facing a terminal illness should be considered, along with medical treatments and related timelines. For example, a grandchild’s graduation ceremony or a trip to visit friends could be important events to consider when scheduling treatments and appointments.  

Talking through everything while a loved one is still physically and mentally able are keys to meeting the needs and desires of someone with a terminal condition. For instance, some people prefer to pass away at home and might require hospice care. Some people prefer palliative care, which is oriented toward end-of-life comfort and pain management. Some people prefer aggressive medical treatments in an effort to prolong life. When possible, these are important issues to discuss and pray about in advance of physical decline.

Facing the final journey of this life can be painful and difficult. Making appropriate plans and having open discussions can help bring comfort to everyone involved. Through prayer and preparation, you and your loved ones can face end-of-life decisions with peace.

By: Craig Meadows

www.SurvivingDayOne.com